ASSERTIVENESS LEVEL 1

This is the BLUE BELT beginner entry level. Satisfactory completion of this level enables access to experiment at Level 2.

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THREE FACES

THREE FACES
Passive * Aggressive * Assertive

SAY SOMETHING YOU ARE AFRAID TO SAY TODAY WITH IMPACT

SELF ASSESS

  • ASSESS : I HAVE CONFLICT WITH MY MANAGER THAT HAS ESCALATED INTO A PROBLEM

YOUR KIDS

  • How would you rate the father, the daugher?

NEIGHBOURS

  • Replace Perfecttly Good FENCE
  • Talk Behind Your Back

WHERE DO I LET FEAR OF BEING HEARD LET MY 'SELF' DOWN

As a Partner
As a Manager
As a Team Member
As a Citizen
As a Father
As a Mother
As a Daughter
As a Son
As a Neighbour

ALARM BELLS

  • Passive
  • Aggressive
  • My Team makes me look bad
  • I am afraid of the consequences of being Assertive
  • Our Credit Card is Growing Out of Hand AND I am AFRAID to ask my wife

ACTION POINTS

  • GOAL
  • ISSUE
  • DEESC
  • Undecided?
  • ASK

JOIN DO GROUP

  • ENTER Room L1
  • About Level 1
  • World Clock

DECISION POINTS

  • Alternatives to UPSET
  • Be Assertive
  • Enter Room L2

DATA POINTS

  • GOAL FORM
  • ABCDE FORM
  • DEESC FORM

About Me

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My name is Robert Litjens, I am a "Performance Catalyst" and I help protect leverage and grow the relationship between the contractor and agent in 3 critical areas where the relationship is most vulnerable and increase the value the contractor is to the agent and the agents client.
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WHAT CO-FOUNDER TRAITS DO YOU LOOK FOR.. EVER WONDER WHY?

Reliability
Compatibility
Committment
Complimentary
Integrity
Synergy
Competent
Passion
Conviction
Trust
Desire
Motivated
Pleasant
Determined

CO-FOUNDER PARTNERSHIPS

  • Business Partners: Determine how you will “disagree” and how final decisions will be made

CORPORATE ROCK STARS DROWNING ME OUT

Fast track their careers passed me
Get the promotions and pay rises eventhough I know more, do more, been there longer
Get the best postings, projects, teams with bugets that are fat and don't have to justify
Get the visibility that has them get all the credit across all stakeholders and power brokers in my organisation
Have more courage to use their assertiveness skills to faciltate and lead so people look up to them with greater respect and even admiration

MANAGERS

  • Are YOU causing CONFLICT?
  • Apprentice
  • Getting Buyin
  • Help your team make you look good
  • BUYIN Who What Why How
  • ISO intent an elephant to digest

TEAM MEMBER

  • Are you SUFFERING Conflict?
  • Feel Unsafe

DEAL WITH STRESS

Stress Stacks Up In the Body and Need To Get Rid Of It

Contrary to popular opinion Stress is not unhealthy if we can release it from our body. One way to do this is by articulating our fear, accepting whatever we have no control over and exploring the control we do have over outcomes that scare us.

Get into pairs and describe a situation that is worrying you then take turns in asking (your partner)

What is your ‘worst case’ scenario.

How likely is it, on a scale of one to ten, that this scenario will occur?

Ask, what would be the best possible outcome that could occur?

Ask about the things that worry them but that they cannot control, eg bosses mood.

Ask about the things that they CAN do OR CAN influence.

Working in groups is the most powerful to learn how to trust and to feel support and dissolve stress.

HUMAN DESIGN

  • Projector
  • Generator
  • Generator Decisions

OFFICE

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