WHAT is being assertive?
- Am I Standing up for my rights without violating the rights of others
- Am I EXPRESSING my point while also being respectful of the others ideas, feelings
- Am I Expressing my own thoughts, feelings, wants and needs directly and honestly
WHAT is the basic message?
- You know Joe this is what I think...
- You know Marion this is what I feel...
- You know Jemmie this is how I see the situation...
- No thank you Helen I don't want to do that right now...
- Mary I know you would like that, but I would prefer this. How can we reach agreement here?
WHAT LIVES inside that?
- That assertive is the NEW normal
- That passive is disobeying what is OLD normal
- That aggressive is disobeying what is OLD normal
- Be comfortable disobeying the OLD normal
